​​How To Love Your Woman Right

Stephen Jerubba’al

You know it was Mothers’ Day some days ago, and in the light of the love we have for them, many men sought to know how to treat their women right. Yet, amidst the plethora of advice and tips on this, one timeless truth reigns supreme: to truly love your woman right is to understand her personal rhythm and dance to its beat. Welcome to this brief journey of discovery, as we dive into the art of loving your woman with grace, authenticity, and unwavering passion. So, gentlemen, buckle up! (PS: While this really directly talks about those who are married, the singles but engaged can draw out insight to implement also)

In the amazing journey of relationships especially marriage, the love between a man and a woman is a reflection of the divine love that binds us all. As Christian men, it is our calling and privilege to love our wives in a manner that mirrors the unconditional love of Christ for His church. To love your woman right is to embark on a journey of selflessness, humility, and unwavering commitment, guided by the principles of faith and compassion.

First, loving your woman right begins with understanding and cherishing her as a precious gift from God. Each woman is fearfully and wonderfully made, endowed with unique qualities, strengths, and vulnerabilities. Take the time to truly know her, not just as your wife or woman, but as a beloved daughter of God. Embrace her individuality and celebrate the beauty of her soul, recognizing that she is a reflection of God’s grace and love in your life.

Communication lies at the heart of every meaningful relationship, and marriage is no exception. We are called to communicate with our wives in an honorable manner that reflects Christ’s love and compassion. Make time for heartfelt conversations, listening attentively to her thoughts, feelings, and concerns. Endeavor to create a safe and nurturing space where she feels valued, heard, and understood. Speak words of affirmation and encouragement, uplifting her spirit with the power of your love and support. Let your communication be seasoned with grace, kindness, and humility, as you strive to build a foundation of trust and mutual respect.

It is also essential to recognize and honor the sanctity of your wife’s emotions and needs. We are called to love our wives so much and it is expected to come with sacrifice and selflessness. You should interestingly be attuned to her emotional space, offering comfort and solace in times of distress and rejoicing in moments of joy and triumph. Cultivate empathy and compassion, walking alongside her in the highs and lows of life’s journey. Show her grace and forgiveness, as the time goes knowing that she is not perfect. Let your love be a beacon of hope and healing, illuminating her path with the light of God’s unfailing love.

Again, loving your woman right entails honoring and respecting her as an equal partner in your marriage. As a man, you should lead her with humility and servanthood, as it is obvious that at the heart of true leadership is service. Be of help as you grant her insight into her decision-making processes. Hey man! Be her staunchest advocate and fiercest supporter, championing her dreams and aspirations with unwavering devotion. Also, you should learn to treat her with dignity and respect, affirming her worth as a beloved child of God. Let your actions speak louder than words, demonstrating your love through acts of kindness, thoughtfulness, and selflessness.

Ultimately, to love your woman right is to embody the essence of Christ’s love in your marriage or premarital relationship. Let your love be a reflection of God’s boundless grace and mercy, extending forgiveness, compassion, and understanding at every turn. May your marriages and relationships be a testament that love can be so detailed, and yet simple, shining brightly as a light and inspiration to all who witness it.

And Hey! It’s Women’s History Month. Don’t just read. Go and practice!

Equipped Men Dealing with Insecurity

Silas Bamigbola

In today’s world, many men grapple with feelings of insecurity. Whether it’s about their abilities, appearance, or place in society, these feelings can weigh heavily on a man’s mind and spirit. But the truth is, your security as a man is rooted in a source that transcends all earthly concerns – it is found in God alone.

The Foundation of Security: God

Your security as a man is not determined by your job, your looks, or your social status. Instead, it is deeply rooted in your relationship with God. The Bible reminds us in Psalm 62:2, “He alone is my rock and my salvation, my fortress where I will never be shaken.” As a man, when you place your trust in God, you can be assured that you are on a firm foundation.

Insecurity often stems from a knowledge gap – something you don’t know or something you think you know incorrectly. This can lead to doubts and fears that erode your self-confidence. The good news is that God provides wisdom and knowledge to those who seek Him. Proverbs 2:6 says, “For the Lord gives wisdom; from his mouth come knowledge and understanding.”

As you delve into God’s Word and seek His guidance, you’ll find the knowledge you need to overcome your insecurities. God’s wisdom can fill the gaps in your understanding and give you the confidence to face life’s challenges.

False Knowledge and Insecurity

Insecurity can also be fueled by false knowledge about yourself. You may have internalized negative beliefs or lies about who you are. These misconceptions can hinder your personal growth and leave you feeling inadequate.

Romans 12:2 advises us, “Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing, and perfect will.” Through prayer and reflection on God’s truth, you can replace these false beliefs with His promises. When you understand your identity in Christ, you’ll be better equipped to tackle insecurity head-on.

Becoming an Equipped Man

Becoming an equipped man is the key to preventing insecurity from taking root in your life. Equip yourself with knowledge – both the knowledge of God’s Word and the knowledge of your true identity in Him. When you are firmly grounded in these truths, you’ll find the strength to confront your insecurities and cast them aside.

Insecurity often arises from a fear of inadequacy, but 2 Corinthians 3:5 reminds us, “Not that we are sufficient in ourselves to claim anything as coming from us, but our sufficiency is from God.” Your sufficiency, as a man, is not self-generated but comes from your relationship with God.

So, what does it mean to be an equipped man? It means embracing your identity in Christ, seeking His wisdom, and letting go of false beliefs that hold you back. It means trusting in God’s unchanging love and grace. When you are equipped with the knowledge of God’s Word and His promises, you’ll stand secure in the face of life’s challenges.

In conclusion, every man faces insecurity at some point in life. But remember, your security as a man is found in God alone. Seek His wisdom, discard false beliefs, and become an equipped man. By doing so, you will prevent insecurity from gaining a foothold in your life, and you’ll stand firm in the knowledge that you are loved, valued, and secure in God’s hands.

The Place of a Father as a Priest of the Home

Silas Bamigbola

You, as a father, occupy a unique and sacred role within your family – that of the spiritual priest of your home. This is a profound responsibility, one that carries immense significance for your family’s well-being and spiritual growth. In this blog post, we will explore your role as the spiritual leader in your household, drawing from the wisdom found in scripture.

Your Role as the Spiritual Overseer:

Your position as a father places you in the role of a gatekeeper for your family’s spiritual journey. While it’s commonly understood that many men seek prayerful women as partners to create a spiritually vibrant home, it’s essential to recognize that your own spiritual leadership is equally vital. Your relationship with God forms the foundation upon which your family’s faith is built.

Lead with the Power of Prayer:

You’ve likely heard children say, “My mother’s prayers keep me going.” But what about your prayers as a father? Don’t underestimate the influence of your own prayers. Your connection with God empowers you to lead your family along the path of righteousness and to cover them with your heartfelt intercession.

The Wisdom of Scripture:

Deuteronomy 6:4-7 (NIV) underscores the weight of your role: “Hear, O Israel: The LORD our God, the LORD is one. Love the LORD your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength. These commandments that I give you today are to be on your hearts. Impress them on your children. Talk about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up.”

This scripture emphasizes that you, as a father, must actively instill God’s teachings into your children’s hearts through daily interactions and discussions.

Your Profound Influence:

A 2019 study published in the journal Religious Education revealed that children of born-again Christian fathers had a remarkable 93% chance of becoming born-again Christians themselves. This influence far surpasses the 3% chance for children of non-born-again parents. This study underlines the immense impact fathers have on their children’s faith journeys.

The study found that children of born-again Christian parents were more likely to be born-again Christians themselves, with a 3% chance for children of non-born-again parents, a 36% chance for children of born-again mothers, and a 93% chance for children of born-again fathers. 

-A study published in the journal Religious Education in 2019

Actively Transmitting Faith:

Ephesians 6:4 (NIV) further reinforces your responsibility: “Fathers, do not exasperate your children; instead, bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord.” This verse highlights that you are entrusted with nurturing your children’s faith and ensuring it aligns with God’s Word.

Your Roles as a Father:

In summary, your roles as a father in the position of the priest of your home are profound and multifaceted:

1. Spiritual Leader: You are the spiritual guide of your family.

2. Prayer Warrior: Your prayers are a powerful shield for your loved ones.

3. Teacher of Faith: You impart wisdom and knowledge about God’s love and commandments.

4. Role Model: You set an example of faith and devotion, demonstrating what it means to live a godly life.

5. Protector: You safeguard your family, both physically and spiritually.

In conclusion, as a father, you play an irreplaceable role as the priest of your home. Embrace this sacred duty with love, dedication, and a deep connection with the Divine. Through your commitment to God, your family, and your role as a spiritual leader, you will create a home where faith thrives, and the presence of God is undeniable, enriching your family’s spiritual journey.

The Impact of Failed Fatherhood in Our Society

Paul Ojetayo

“For I told him that I would judge his family forever because of the sin he knew about; his sons blasphemed God, and he failed to restrain them. (Samuel 3:13, NIV)”

Failed fatherhood is a theme that transcends time, seen both in biblical tales and in today’s communities. By examining the story of Eli and his sons, we can draw parallels between ancient lessons and modern realities.

The Tale of Eli’s Failed Fatherhood

Eli, a priest and judge in ancient Israel, struggled with failed fatherhood. His sons, Hophni and Phinehas, priests like their father, veered into sin. Despite knowing of their transgressions, Eli didn’t correct them. This failure led to severe consequences.

Eli’s story is a poignant example of how parental neglect can have lasting repercussions. He knew of his sons’ wrongdoing but failed to take the necessary corrective actions. This ancient tale serves as a stark reminder that the consequences of failed fatherhood can be far-reaching.

Consequences Echoed in Society

Failed fatherhood’s impact isn’t confined to the Bible. In modern communities, it can lead to a host of societal issues. The absence of responsible father figures can result in increased crime rates, educational challenges, economic hardship, and emotional turmoil for children.

Children growing up without proper paternal guidance may lack the necessary support and structure in their lives. This void can contribute to a sense of aimlessness and vulnerability, often leading to involvement in delinquent activities.

Moreover, failed fatherhood can exacerbate economic disparities. Single-parent households, often led by mothers, may struggle to make ends meet, perpetuating cycles of poverty.

Lessons from Eli’s Story

Eli’s story teaches us the importance of moral guidance and discipline provided by fathers. It shows how failed fatherhood affects not only individual families but entire communities, often persisting through generations. Eli’s inaction in the face of his sons’ misdeeds resulted in divine judgment, highlighting the gravity of parental neglect.

Nurturing Responsible Fatherhood

Addressing failed fatherhood requires a concerted effort from society. Community support, educational programs, and initiatives promoting responsible fatherhood are essential components of the solution.

Encouraging fathers to actively engage with their children, guide them, and instil moral values can break the cycle of failed fatherhood. Fathers should be encouraged to participate actively in their children’s lives, providing emotional support, mentorship, and a positive role model.

Conclusion

Eli’s story in the Bible serves as a timeless reminder of the consequences of failed fatherhood. Its lessons apply to modern societies, emphasizing the need for nurturing responsible fatherhood for healthier families and communities.

The impact of failed fatherhood extends far beyond the individual family unit. It permeates society, contributing to a range of challenges that affect us all. Recognizing the significance of responsible fatherhood and taking proactive steps to support and empower fathers is crucial for building a more stable, prosperous, and harmonious society. By learning from the mistakes of the past, we can strive for a brighter future where every child has the opportunity to grow up with the guidance and love of a responsible father figure.

Mentors As Lifesavers

Mercy Bamigbola

Every human faces the challenge of making decisions every day; some huge and life-changing, others minute. Each of these decisions makes up the entirety of our lives. Decisions can make or mar a person’s destiny. This is why it is necessary to consider them deeply before they are taken. Many times, these decisions need to be made individually and independently. In other cases, there is a need for guidance and direction. This is where the importance of mentors comes in. A mentor is someone who teaches and guides another to move in the right direction. It is important to understand, though, that every one of us needs a mentor, no matter our age, race, or class. In education, in the spiritual aspect, relationships, career, and finances, we have to be able to point to one person who is capable of bringing us back on track. Taking the Bible as our guide, we will consider examples of mentors being lifesavers.

As Christians, the greatest mentor you can have is Jesus. The life and teachings of Jesus Christ are the greatest guides to living a fulfilled life. Jesus, at a very young age, was attentive in the temple; he was able to resist the devil’s temptation; he taught multitudes of people about the importance of the Gospel and also mentored great fathers of the Gospel like Peter, John, and James. Jesus Christ, as a mentor, was a lifesaver to his disciples while he was on earth. We record the story of Peter, who was scared to walk on water but eventually survived with the reassurance he got from Jesus. Then Peter got down out of the boat, walked on the water and came toward Jesus. But when he saw the wind, he was afraid and, beginning to sink, cried out, “Lord, save me!” Immediately, Jesus reached out his hand and caught him. “You of little faith,” he said, “why did you doubt?” And when they climbed into the boat, the wind died down. Then those who were in the boat worshipped him, saying, “Truly, you are the Son of God.” – Matthew 14:30-33

Jesus, as our mentor, reflects the character of God the Father. When we look to Him, we see what the Father looks like. Jesus saw the disciples in their weaknesses and inadequacies, yet he saw them as worthy of propagating the Gospel. When they were moving toward self-sabotage, He was always there to save them. An example of this is when Simon Peter cut off the ear of the slave in Luke 22:50-51, “And one of them struck the servant of the high priest and cut off his right ear. But Jesus said, ‘No more of this!’ And he touched his ear and healed him.” Jesus was there to call him to order. This is the same Jesus Christ who now dwells in us through the Holy Spirit, guiding us along the right path.

Another instance of mentorship in the Bible is the interaction between Samuel and Eli. Samuel, as a young boy, had been entrusted to the care of the priest, Eli. His mother gave him back to God to fulfil a promise she had made to God. However, he could not fulfil that purpose without a mentor. In 1 Samuel 3:1-10, when Samuel slept and heard someone call him, Eli was the one who perceived “that the Lord was calling the boy,” so he taught him to respond by saying, “Speak, Lord, for your servant hears.” Samuel moved on to be a useful tool in the hands of God, but we see that Eli was a crucial part of his life. He learned to always listen to God, and this saved him throughout his lifetime.

Finally, as we have seen the examples of these Bible characters, we understand that mentors are an important part of fulfilling our purpose in this world because they will save us from making grievous mistakes.

The Struggle

Silas Bamigbola

This struggle is akin to a bloodthirsty, parasitic leech that gradually drains a person’s vitality and creativity, transforming their mind into a pawn at the mercy of its master. This pawn is controlled remotely, manipulated to sink deeper into a quagmire that taints their thoughts with filth.

If one battles with pornography, their devices have undoubtedly captured their face, identifying them as a frequent consumer of explicit content. There is even a specific satellite channel that airs pornographic films every Saturday morning around 12 am, and you happen to be an avid viewer.

Over time, the destructive habit of masturbation has clung to you like a dreadful tribal mark, causing remorse for the circumstances that led you to indulge in such behaviour. Each opportunity seized, you gave in to the act, attempting to prove your prowess as a devoted student of the “school masters” (porn stars) and their art.

Pornography has the power to drain the best parts of a person, leaving them entranced, hypnotized, and ensnared in a web of mental chaos. It subjugates you to the point that instead of focusing on important matters or the word of God during moments of solitude, your mind fixates on the explicit content you have consumed. Passing women become triggers, turning your thoughts into a soap opera replaying illicit and amusing scenarios.

When this issue becomes a problem and an addiction, you realize that you are up against a formidable opponent. As the saying goes, “If your eyes are bad, your whole body will be full of darkness. If the light within you is darkness, how great is that darkness!” Sadly, you have subjected your eyes to corrupting materials, and despite your efforts, you have been unable to break free from their grip. Frustration and self-disgust have overtaken you.

I understand that feeling, my brother. I truly do. It is a journey and know what it means to want to win.

But take solace in the fact that Jesus Christ, who understands our weaknesses, sacrificed himself for us. We can approach him just as we are, and the healing process will begin. It won’t be easy because we may stumble and fall many times, but even in our moments of weakness, we can cling to Him and trust Him. Through prayer, the word of God, meditation on His teachings, and having a supportive community that holds us accountable, we can overcome. That is:

• Seek Support and Accountability: Reach out to trusted friends, counsellors, or support groups for guidance and accountability.
• Establish Healthy Habits: Replace unhealthy behaviours with positive activities such as exercise, hobbies, and learning new skills. Create a routine that promotes personal growth and reduces idle time.
• Utilize Technology Tools: Install content filtering software, enable parental control settings, and consider utilizing accountability software to track online activities with a trusted partner.
• Prayer and Meditation: Engage in prayer and meditation as a means of finding inner strength, seeking guidance, and cultivating a closer connection with a higher power. Set aside time for reflection, self-discovery, and spiritual growth.

Watching pornography is an insult to our minds. God has blessed us with our minds so that we can use them to think and imagine, foster change, generate great ideas, and find solutions. Tainting our minds with repugnant imagery blinds us, stunts our growth, and hinders our path to success.

Silas Bamigbola (Originally written in 2017)

Empowering Growth: Transforming Inferiority Complex

Silas Bamigbola

Growing up in an underserved town in northern Nigeria, I experienced firsthand the profound impact of lacking access to relevant knowledge and opportunities. It became apparent to me that this absence crippled my potential, regardless of my innate abilities. The resulting inferiority complex hindered my desire to learn new skills at a young age. However, I realized that by intentionally exposing myself to opportunities, I could transform my low inferiority complex into personal growth and turn my disadvantage into an advantage.

Embracing the Desire for Personal Growth:

To overcome a low inferiority complex, it is crucial to nurture a genuine desire for personal growth. Recognize that your background or circumstances do not define your worth or limit your potential. Embrace the belief that with dedication and perseverance, you can acquire the knowledge and skills needed to thrive in any field.

Cultivating a Growth Mindset:

A growth mindset is a powerful tool in combating inferiority complex. Embrace the belief that intelligence and abilities can be developed through effort and learning. Celebrate failures as opportunities for growth and view challenges as stepping stones toward personal development. By adopting a growth mindset, you will empower yourself to overcome limitations and embrace continuous self-improvement.

Seeking Relevant Knowledge and Opportunities:

Take deliberate steps to seek out knowledge and opportunities that can expand your horizons. Read books, attend seminars, and engage in online courses to enhance your understanding and acquire new skills. Seek mentors or role models who can guide you on your journey and provide valuable insights. Actively participate in networking events and engage with individuals from diverse backgrounds to broaden your perspective.

Building a Supportive Community:

Surround yourself with like-minded individuals who inspire and uplift you. Seek out communities that foster positive and empowering conversations. By connecting with others who have similar experiences or aspirations, you can share stories, exchange ideas, and support one another on the path to personal growth. Building a supportive community helps to alleviate feelings of inferiority and provides a safe space for open dialogue.

Embracing Challenges and Celebrating Progress:

Challenge yourself to step outside your comfort zone and take on new experiences. Each small achievement contributes to building confidence and self-belief. Recognize and celebrate your progress, no matter how small. Embracing challenges and celebrating personal growth will gradually diminish feelings of inferiority and empower you to reach new heights.

Conclusion:

Transforming a low inferiority complex into personal growth requires intention, effort, and a commitment to self-improvement. By nurturing a desire for personal growth, cultivating a growth mindset, seeking relevant knowledge and opportunities, building a supportive community, and embracing challenges, young men can overcome their inferiority complex and harness their innate abilities to achieve success. Remember, your background does not dictate your future; it is your determination to grow that propels you toward greatness.

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Embracing Your Worth

Silas Bamigbola

Dear Young Men of Our Generation,

In a world where expectations loom large, it’s no wonder that many of us find ourselves grappling with feelings of inferiority. The pressure to succeed financially and meet societal standards has led some to desperate measures, like engaging in cybercrime (yahoo) or rushing through life’s processes. But we must realize that our worth is not defined by external factors. We have the power to rise above these challenges and embrace our true purpose. Let’s explore some strategies to overcome an inferiority complex and discover a path of self-assurance.

1. Recognize the Power of Individuality:

Each one of us is unique, with our own set of talents, passions, and dreams. Instead of comparing ourselves to others, let’s focus on nurturing our abilities. Understand that true success lies in discovering and developing your authentic self. Embrace your strengths, hone your skills, and pursue your own unique path.

2. Shift Your Perspective:

Rather than being weighed down by the expectations of society or even the opinions of others, shift your focus inward. Take the time to understand your purpose and passions. What brings you joy? What impact do you want to make? By aligning your actions with your values, you’ll find greater fulfilment and a sense of purpose that transcends comparison.

3. Cultivate a Supportive Circle:

Surround yourself with positive influences who uplift and inspire you. Seek out mentors, friends, or family members who believe in your potential. Their encouragement and guidance will help you build confidence and overcome self-doubt. Remember, iron sharpens iron, and having a strong support system can make a world of difference.

4. Embrace Growth and Learning:

Instead of rushing through life’s processes, give yourself permission to grow and evolve at your own pace. Understand that success is not an overnight achievement but a journey of continuous improvement. Invest in personal development, acquire new skills, and expand your knowledge base. Seek wisdom from trusted sources, both secular and spiritual, such as the timeless teachings found in the scriptures.

In Matthew 6:26, Jesus reminds us, “Look at the birds of the air; they do not sow or reap or store away in barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not much more valuable than they?” This verse serves as a powerful reminder that our worth transcends material possessions and societal expectations.

Remember, dear young men, you are fearfully and wonderfully made (Psalm 139:14). Embrace your unique journey, celebrate your individuality, and pursue your purpose with passion. Release the burden of comparison, for it hinders growth and robs you of joy. Instead, focus on your progress and the positive impact you can make in the world.

In conclusion, overcoming inferiority complex is a process that requires self-reflection, resilience, and support. By embracing your worth, shifting your perspective, cultivating a supportive circle, and committing to growth, you can break free from the shackles of comparison. Rise above societal expectations, honour your purpose, and journey towards a life of fulfilment and contentment.

You have the power within you, dear young men, to create a better world—one where self-assurance and purpose prevail. Embrace this truth and run with it.

With heartfelt encouragement,

Silas

How To Break Free From Inferiority Complex

Raymond Oluwalola

Growing up, I can think of many moments when I wished I was White, not as a colour but as a race. The world I believed in was from movies (I watched many), made me resent a part of my existence that I was Black, and to make matters worse, that I was Nigerian.

If we are not careful, there is an inferiority complex that may descend upon us earlier on in life and make us resent where we are from, who we were born to, and how we have come to grow up, and the list is endless.

For most of us, these feelings of insecurity and insufficiency (such as being unable to reach an intended goal) are highly situational or occasional. When they arise, we may, for example, brood about them for a time and then move on, deal with them by reminding ourselves that we have other strengths, or use them as motivation to master the underlying problem, says James E. Maddux, PhD, psychologist and author of Subjective Well-Being and Life Satisfaction and coauthor of Psychopathology: Foundations for a Contemporary Understanding.

‘Complex’ refers to a mental state made up of different emotions, and ideas and is completely different from the ‘feeling of inferiority.’

Feeling inferior is a fleeting feeling and allows you to look beyond your imperfections and strive for growth. It also refers to the state when you say that ‘Had this happened/not happened, I would have achieved this/that.’

Had I thought that since ‘I am a guy from the wrong country or race, I could never be respected or even noticed in society,’ is what can be referred to as an inferiority complex?

These complexities that we suffer from can come in different form and shape like your voice isn’t good enough, your food is tasteless, your cultural background is weird, you are not as civilized as others, not as attractive, not as intelligent, and so on, so forth.

When you give an excuse for not doing something, that’s when you should know that it’s not normal, and need to be worked on. While an inferiority complex blocks you and makes you curse everything around you when the problem is not the environment but ‘You’.

Society may have been psychologically conditioned to make us feel like that – interiorization tactics are mainly used to convince their victims that they are oppressed, but we need to understand that society plays a big part in making us feel inferior. We can break free from this complex. To feel inferior, we do not need to feel worthless, to kill our spirit, or keep us down as well as others around us.

I may have grown up to love who I am now, but it has not always been so. I’m not going to lie and act like the thought of changing my race and culture hasn’t crossed my mind. Most people may not know this is happening, but as they grow, they subliminally suffer from something that may be telling them that something or someone better is out there.

Realize that you are not alone. Apparently, this is a bad place to be, but here is a suggestion, “Give importance to your identity, including your height, weight, skin colour, and features, as well as your thoughts, dreams, family, and knowledge. These elements create you and make you an individual.

Another proven technique that could help is to talk to somebody – seek help and look for a community that can help you grow – don’t sit in idleness and wallow in self-pity, it does not help. Lastly, you can turn to the scriptures, look for and gather words that describe you and how you want to see yourself, and let them be your words of affirmation.

The more you keep reading and meditating on those words, the more you believe them, and the more it redefines how you see and perceive yourself.

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Embrace Your Manhood: Unleashing Your Purpose as a Man

Silas Bamigbola

In a world where men often navigate through societal expectations and conflicting messages, it becomes crucial for them to actively embrace their manhood with a clear understanding of their purpose. By tapping into their divine calling, men can unlock their potential, become beacons of strength, and positively impact their communities. This article aims to guide men on their journey of self-discovery, emphasizing the importance of actively understanding their purpose and how it can transform them into the men God intended them to be.

1. Acknowledge the Source of Purpose:

The first step in embracing manhood is recognizing that God, the author of our lives, holds the key to our purpose. Seek a deeper relationship with Him through prayer and scripture, and discover that Ephesians 2:10 reminds us that we are “God’s workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works.” Understand this truth to align your life with God’s plan and unleash your true potential.

2. Discover Your Unique Design:

Realize that you are intricately designed by God with unique gifts, talents, and passions. Explore your interests and reflect on what brings you joy and fulfilment. Romans 12:6 affirms that “we have different gifts according to the grace given to each of us.” Identify and develop your God-given abilities to serve others and make a meaningful impact.

3. Live Out Your Purpose:

Understanding purpose is just the beginning; it must be actively lived out. Embrace your role as a leader, protector, and provider in your families, workplaces, and communities. Galatians 6:10 encourages us to “do good to all people, especially to those who belong to the family of believers.” Actively seek opportunities to serve and make a positive difference, fully embracing your manhood and contributing to the well-being of others.

4. Overcome Challenges:

The journey of embracing manhood and living out your purpose is not without challenges. You may face societal pressures, personal doubts, or setbacks along the way. However, with faith and perseverance, you can overcome these obstacles. Proverbs 3:5-6 reminds us to “trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding.” Rely on God’s guidance and seek support from like-minded individuals to stay on course and fulfil your purpose.

Conclusion:

Embracing manhood is a transformative journey that begins with actively understanding your purpose. Recognize that you are fearfully and wonderfully made by God, and embrace your unique design. Live out your purpose with confidence, knowing that you have a divine calling waiting to be fulfilled. By seeking God’s guidance and relying on His strength, unlock your full potential and become the solution your communities need. Let us encourage men to actively embrace their manhood, knowing that they have a purpose to fulfil and a world to impact.